Appreciating Family - A Thanksgiving Intention

This time of year, families from all over the country get together to give thanks for everything they have, as a unit, and on an individual level.

Sometimes, these family reunions can stir up fear, angst, and a general nauseous feeling in some people. Knowing that the holidays approach, we think, "Do I really need to see Aunt Rita?" "I've never really liked my mother/father/sibling, and now I have to spend more time with them."

At this time, instead of the nervous, anxious family feelings, try to tap into the warm, tender feelings in relation to family. Perhaps think, "Wow, it's great that we can all get together like this. Who knows if it will be like this all the time."

This might be hard. It's hard for a lot of people. But there is nothing like a really nice family moment. When you look around at the people in the room and think, "This is really nice. Life is great."

You can have that moment. Maybe not all the time, but you can have those nice, family moments.

It starts with doing what you can to focus on the positives of the people in the room. No one is perfect, and you can't choose your family. But if you can see the light in them, if you can tap into the love that resides in the heart somewhere, then maybe, just maybe, this Thanksgiving will be different than the one before it.

Let's set the intention that this year is going to be pleasant. This year is going to be hopeful. This year we will have that moment when we look around the room and smile that warm happy feeling, and appreciate family. Because although we don't get to choose our family, it's also the only one we've got.

And unless we intend our lives in advance, today, days before we even think about traveling for the holidays, it becomes that much harder to achieve.

Have a happy Holiday Season!

Election Thoughts: Yes You Can!

Last night we all witnessed history. This was an amazing election. A lot was on the line, but the party who owned terms like "Change" and "Yes We Can" resonated most with the American voters. The candidate who promised great changes won, with a message of optimism and with great hope for our future.

All across the country, people are hypnotized by our new President. President-Elect Obama has taken a cult-like following among people of all races and all creeds. Even people from other countries have fallen in love with our new President. There have been many tears of joy shed, as people expect and know and feel that our new President will change things as they are. Many truly and sincerely believe that he will lead us into a new world of peace, prosperity, and happiness.

But at the end of the day, real peace, real happiness, and most importantly, real change - lies within.

The odds are more likely than not that a change in power will not change most of our lives. America is a great country in that we have a party in power peacefully handing off that power to another party elected by the people.

However, the economy is often cyclical. Things are bad now, but they will most likely be good again. Our new President might do all he can to change what he can, and I truly hope he does.

But on an individual level, in our lives, if we truly want change, we need to look inside ourselves. We need to start making the decisions that will change ourselves. We might have cried when our new President was elected, but he is not going to come into your house or into your heart and change you.

You must change you.

If change is something you want, if you really want a better, happier, you - then take stock. Look deep inside. What is not working for you? What can you do to change it? Because I guarantee that even if you contributed to President Obama's campaign, he will not sit with you, hold your hand, and change your life. Only you can change you.

Do you want to change your relationships? Yes you can.

Do you want to change your financial situation? Yes you can.

Do you want to stop being a victim? Yes you can.

And for the most part - only you can. If you are feeling lost, feel free to contact one of the coachabilities coaches to learn more about the things you can do. Yes, the sky is the limit for you, but it must be you and only you.

Today, on this historic date, we all hope that our new President will lead us into happier times. That he will change the way things are done in our Nation's Capitol.

But let's make this a day that we decide and know that only real change can take place if we look inside ourselves, see what is not working, decide to change it, and yell at the top of your lungs -

Yes I can!

Change Is In The Air

Wow! Incase you were living under a rock for the last 12 hours, we have just elected the first African American President! What an amazing time for our country. Whether you voted for Obama or McCain, you can't help but feel like anything is possible in this day and age.  This is indeed a time of change for our country.  

But many times we are faced with a dramatic change that may have not been our choice. Divorce, loss of job, moving, empty nesters....the list goes on. But when faced with change, how are you going to deal with it. Are you going to feel sorry for yourself and sulk or are you going to take the opportunity to create a new, more fulfilling life for yourself?

Look at your situation as a gift if you can. A gift that enables you to reinvent who you are and what you want to be in this world. Take time to really notice what motivates you. 

What are you passionate about? 

• Are you an exercise and fitness nut? 
• Are you artistic?
• Perhaps you are passionate about a global cause or issue. 

Really take time to think about what it is your love to do.  What would your dream day look like?

Examine your strengths.  

• Are you good with numbers?
• Do you write well?
• Can you lead people effectively? 

List all your accomplishments over the past 5-10 years.

Think about ways that you can combine your passions and dreams with your strengths and skills to create a life that empowers you.

Be proud of all that you have accomplished so far and realize that you are equipped with a great set of tools to face whatever the world has to offer.  So instead of sulking and feeling like a victim of change, take this time to reassess where you've been and where you want to go. All you have to do is believe in yourself. 

It is often said, "Seeing is Believing" but I would like you to think about "Believing is Seeing." If you believe you can achieve your goal, then you will see yourself reaching that goal. You just need to look at the election votes to realize just how true this can be.

So How Do You Want to Feel on January 1, 2009?

I hope everyone had a fantastic weekend.  I've been giving some thought to the questions I posted on Friday and I thought I would share my own answers on how to survive the holiday eating fest.

How do I want to feel on January 1, 2009?

• I don't want to have any regrets about how I managed my weight during the holidays.  I want to feel confident and in control.
  

What steps am I going to take to make that happen?

• I'm going to continue doing what I'm doing now.  For exercise I walk 30 minutes 5 days a week. I don't see any reason why I won't be able to continue with my routine.  Walking makes me feel good!   I will continue to choose foods that I like and that satisfy me and I will continue to practice safe portion control.  
  

OK, it's reasonable to assume that unless you are hosting a party or having the family over for Thanksgiving you won't always be in control of your food choices at this time of year.  But that doesn't mean all is lost because remember - we are always in complete control over how much food we put in our mouths.  It is our own hands that place the food in our own mouths.    Do you love apple pie a la mode?  Then go ahead and have a small portion and don't use a soup ladle to measure out a serving of ice cream.  Take a tablespoon instead and eat it slowly so you can appreciate the flavors, textures and temperatures. 

Make a resolution now that you will have no need to make any resolutions on January 1, 2009!

Later Mashed Potater!